Saturday

The Modern Day Romance

holding hands.
For years I spent days on end comparing relationships to those magical moments on screen.
I am sure a lot of you would agree with me when I say, I was left disappointed.

I would spend a lot of time analysing my relationship; how many arguments we had, how frustrating it was to constantly be picking things up from the floor or throwing empty packets in the bin or persuading the Mr that we should go out more.

So many rom-coms plant the idea of the 'Perfect Man' in our heads and we're left criticising our men for the lack of romantising they do. 
lets grow old together and drink tea
Until you realise that it is VERY rare that you will find a guy who is 'tall, dark and handsome' AND who will cook you dinner, treat you well, surprise you with spontaneous trips to Paris AND who is clean, tidy and thoughtful.
There is no such thing as those Dreamboats we desire from those much loved films. There is however, parts of them!

Once you recognise this you will cherish those 'Hello honey' kisses, that bunch of 'I'm sorry' flowers, the takeaway that's 'on him'.
You will be grateful of the single-handed food shop that he offered- even if he DID forget the bread!
You will appreciate the handholding, the holding doors open, the carrying of the bags... and not take it for granted.
just talk......that's all you have to do...talk to me for hours, or minutes, but just talk...and sooner or later I will know whether you have been to the places I have and whether you know the same world I do.....one small caveat, the talking has to occur in the woods...and the trees have to be a part of the conversation...
Last weekend Sebastian bought us Iced juices/frappes and we sat watching two old buskers in the sunshine. It was so lovely. He bought me a KitKat because he knew I felt wobbly from the lack of food and too much sun. He carried all the shopping home and bought me a tray of Violas to press and to pot at a later date.
That- is love!

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*Since writing this I have realised that Sebastian is officially MY 'perfect guy'. He buys me flowers to make me smile, he makes me dance to imaginary music to cheer me up, he takes me out and buys me pizza and blush wine after a really hard day, he motivates me to do my creative projects, he goes out to the shops to buy me chocolate when sometimes being a lady gets way too emotional! He makes me laugh, he makes me smile. He is pretty darn awesome.
And I cannot wait to marry him next year.

11 comments:

  1. I agree! But I know my man isn't super romantic but when he does something romantic, it means more than having it all the time. It feels special! I think the little things like forehead kisses, and buying you a kit kat or carrying the shopping are more important than anything else!
    And if there were no arguments or anything like that, there would be no passion!

    Girls like me and you are lucky, because those are the good guys everyone's looking for <3

    CAT xo

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  2. I absolutely adored this post. Sebastian sounds like the perfect boyfriend and I'm incredibly happy for you that you found him :) Hopefully I will have such a lovely relationship with someone once.

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  3. Ben and I have a very similar relationship. Ben's not the romantic type, even less than Sebastian as I never get flowers :P but I know that he adores me and Pip and he treats me right and that's all that matters. I call the boys you were talking about 'nice boys' and I dated a couple and it never lasted long, I need an argument every now and again.

    Jenny | sunny sweet pea xx

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  4. I couldn't have put it better myself. After spending my teen years watching pretty much every chick flick/romantic film around it's taken me a while to adjust to the real life world of romance... and I still struggle sometimes! It's great to know that other people feel the same though, as I do know a few girls who believe a guy doesn't deserve to be your boyfriend if he's not perfect (funnily enough these girls haven't found the 'right' guy yet... I wonder why!)

    This was a nice little reminder to appreciate the little things, so thank you. :)

    Imogen // imogenscribbles x

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  5. You are a lucky girl darling!I wish I could find a man like your boyfriend<3kisses

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  6. I love this post! It's always the little things. Bless our boys!

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  7. Oh Charlotte this is so beautiful it makes me want to cry. I am so so happy for you that you have found your perfect guy.

    Lots of love
    Alice xx |The Cup and Saucer

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  8. Beautiful post my sweet love. It makes me happy when you are happy! <3

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  9. this is so sweet! i'm really looking forward to seeing all of the wedding plans & photos! it's going to be so spectacular & whimsical! wish i could have gotten to know sebastian more, but i do get to say that i've met him! sounds like you've got a great guy & the perfect one for you. that's what i believe - a guy may not be "the perfect guy" in the movies, but he is the perfect guy for you : )

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  10. Great post! I totally agree with every single word in it! Life is made up of little things, lets cherish them!
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  11. What a lovely post :) I completely agree with everything you said! It's so easy to expect your other half to tick every box and wonder why your boyfriend doesn't act exactly like the men in movies do. It's the little things that count though! :) x

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