For years I spent days on end comparing relationships to those magical moments on screen.
I am sure a lot of you would agree with me when I say, I was left disappointed.
I would spend a lot of time analysing my relationship; how many arguments we had, how frustrating it was to constantly be picking things up from the floor or throwing empty packets in the bin or persuading the Mr that we should go out more.
So many rom-coms plant the idea of the 'Perfect Man' in our heads and we're left criticising our men for the lack of romantising they do.
Until you realise that it is VERY rare that you will find a guy who is 'tall, dark and handsome' AND who will cook you dinner, treat you well, surprise you with spontaneous trips to Paris AND who is clean, tidy and thoughtful.
There is no such thing as those Dreamboats we desire from those much loved films. There is however, parts of them!
Once you recognise this you will cherish those 'Hello honey' kisses, that bunch of 'I'm sorry' flowers, the takeaway that's 'on him'.
You will be grateful of the single-handed food shop that he offered- even if he DID forget the bread!
You will appreciate the handholding, the holding doors open, the carrying of the bags... and not take it for granted.
Last weekend Sebastian bought us Iced juices/frappes and we sat watching two old buskers in the sunshine. It was so lovely. He bought me a KitKat because he knew I felt wobbly from the lack of food and too much sun. He carried all the shopping home and bought me a tray of Violas to press and to pot at a later date.
That- is love!
(image source, Pinterest)
*Since writing this I have realised that Sebastian is officially MY 'perfect guy'. He buys me flowers to make me smile, he makes me dance to imaginary music to cheer me up, he takes me out and buys me pizza and blush wine after a really hard day, he motivates me to do my creative projects, he goes out to the shops to buy me chocolate when sometimes being a lady gets way too emotional! He makes me laugh, he makes me smile. He is pretty darn awesome.
And I cannot wait to marry him next year.