Wednesday

Everyday life goals

Firstly, Where the heck have I been? - I have been trying to do this thing where I am more in the moment and thinking a lot less about what I feel I "have" to be doing. The more I focus on how bad I am at not being organised or creative or productive - the more I am inclined to curl up in the fetus position and watch something really uneducated on Netflix, whilst nibbling too much birthday chocolate - aka wasting time!

So.. I started doing this thing about letting go and being a little more slow and so far, it's working.
I actually took some time for myself a few weeks ago, and had a long soak in a relaxing bubble bath. It was full of soothingly scented bubbles and I was surrounded by low sunset light and a couple of deliciously calming candles. Instead of enjoying the pure silence I decided to watch 'Minimalism' on Netflix and boy was I left inspired.
I absolutely love that idea of having less of the meaningless 'stuff' and more of what brings joy to your life. I have so much around me that has me feeling claustrophobic and untidy that I would be happy to fill a skip and ship it off to the secondhand shops. The closing line was everything; "love people and use things, because the opposite never works." *insert heart eyes emoji!!*
This perfectly coincides with the book I am currently reading; Simplicity Parenting. I have always dreamed of a slow life and always imagined my children having a very little amount of 'things'- A few special wooden toys and puzzles - those that would last. A childhood with little television and technology and so much room for imagination and exploring. Some days I find myself with an overstimulated toddler who demands things, who will ask for a certain song to be played on my phone or for her TV show to be put on and refusing to change her nappy coherently without holding the tube of Bonjela or a ride in the pushchair without having a snack. All these things I have used once or twice to make my life easier some way or another and now it's coming back at me and biting me in the bottom. Apart from the snacks in the pushchair, she rarely got the outcome she desires unless it was on my terms, however it sure as heck opened my eyes to what I was trying to avoid before her arrival. I am proud of how her childhood as been so far. She's bright and has an incredible vocabulary, she wants to learn and her memory is a sponge! She asks for the radio on when we're in the kitchen and the record player when we're in the lounge. She loves to read books and play independently. She sleeps well and eats well. It's wonderful. But those tantrums and moments we have can be quite testing, however I realise it's usually when she's tired and overstimulated, frustrated when she can't do something herself or if I'm have a quick scroll through social media.
On some days I feel grateful of the tantrums purely because it reminds me to be more in the moment, to put the phone down and to give Olive the right amount of attention, with fewer choices of toys to play with. This book is helping me to do that as are a few 'rules and curfews'.

A few weeks ago I decided to give my phone a curfew of 930pm as well as lights out before 11pm. This way I get to switch off and escape the huge distraction that is social media and I feel and sleep so much better. I also make sure I give myself a little time to read my book before falling asleep - time to switch off, which is something I haven't done since way before Olive was born.
I also have other scheduled things to make my life as 'tidy' as possible; Laundry days, days for batch cooking for Olive and evenly spreading out Olive's play dates/Toddler groups and quiet slow days. I feel more relaxed, in control, organised and well slept!
I also hope to schedule some blogging time in as I have thoroughly missed it. I have so much to share, write, record here and I am making time to do that, for myself, for you - if you're still out there reading this that is!


What do you do to tidy your mind? What do you think of the minimalism process? 
Parents - Are there any tips for simplifying your children's/family life?

2 comments:

  1. I'm afraid I can't give you any parenting tips, not being a mother myself, but I just wanted to comment to say that it's lovely to have you back and I do hope you won't leave it so long in future.

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    1. Thank you so much! It's lovely to know I have been missed.
      I promise I won't leave it so long!! xxx

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